Man Questions Wife for Requesting N50k Refund for Household Expenses, Her Response Sparks Debate

• A Nigerian man said his wife spent N50k for something needed at home and asked him for refund
• He questioned her for requesting refund and shared the response she gave to him, which he agreed to
• Many who came across the man’s post shared their thoughts on the couple’s stance regarding splitting bills

A Nigerian man, David Onyemaizu, sparked debate after sharing a recent experience with his wife.

He stated that his wife used N50k for something they needed at home, and then asked him later for a refund.

In the tweet by @SirDavidBent on X, the man shared his wife’s response when he questioned her about seeking refund.

He said:

“I was owing my wife 50k yesterday for something we needed at home that she had gotten with her money. She asked me for the money later in the evening & I jokingly said, “Can’t you pay for it without me refunding you?” Then she said in Yoruba, “You better don’t pray for such.”

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“What she meant was that I should never pray to be in a position where I lose my ability to provide as a man. And I could understand her, it is not the duty of the woman to provide in the house, that is my sole responsibility and that is why provision is a man’s shield.

“These days, only very few women hope & pray that their husbands continue to retain that ability to provide. Some of them want a situation where the husband loses that ability and becomes subservient to them. Pray you don’t get married to such a woman.”

See the tweet below:

Reactions trail man’s post on provision

Many who came across the man’s post shared their thoughts on the couple’s stance regarding splitting bills.

Legit.ng compiled some of the reactions.

@Nino_brown_ico

“Just like my wife will tell me she needs to buy something for herself but when I tell her I don’t have much . She will say she will borrow me until I have much.”

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@GImokhuede

“You call it her money because you people have despise the way the one who created the institution asked you to do it, Marriage was designed by God and if any one must thrive they must embrace the secret of “oneness” “the two shall become one flesh, it’s no longer two”

@Sir_Jayprime

“Truth is, I won't pay her back, why should I pay her? She did something at home, her own family and expects me to pay, that ain't happening and it will not reduce me as the head of the home.”

@Ukeh8

“So you feel if you don't pay her back she will eventually disrespect you. Interesting.”

In a chat with Legit.ng, a marital coach, Debby Airebanmen-Jegede, said it was ideal for men to be the providers in the home.

She said:

"Ideally, God made the husband to be the provider in the marriage institution. This is scripturally backed up by the account of creation when Adam had something he was doing with which he could feed his family before God brought Eve to him.

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"Traditionally too, men are known to be providers. Men take pride in being able to provide financially for their families. Most men would feel emotionally down when they cannot provide for their families. That said, the wife was made to be a helper to her husband."

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Meanwhile, Legit.ng previously reported that a bride’s father went viral over the advice he gave to his son-in-law at the latter’s wedding ceremony.

The man told the groom that it was not his wife’s duty to cook for him and went on to elaborate on his point.

Many who came across the video shared their diverse opinions on the bride’s father's advice as the video went viral.

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Proofread by Kola Muhammed, journalist and copyeditor at Legit.ng

Source: Legit.ng