Lady Mourning School Friend Who Died in 2024 Dragged Online after Sharing Their Facebook Chat
- A Nigerian lady has come under fire after posting a screenshot of her Facebook chat with her secondary school friend who passed away in 2024
- The lady, who acted as a bridesmaid for her deceased friend when she wedded in 2021, recounted their friendship journey
- She shared how she found out that her friend had passed away but netizens observed something saddening in her Facebook chat with the deceased
A lady, Peace Chidimma Nwokocha, got some internet users angry while mourning her late namesake who she recently discovered had died in 2024.
While mourning her late friend on Facebook, Chidimma posted pictures they took together in the past and their Facebook chat.
Source: Facebook
How Chidimma knew her friend died
According to Chidimma, she and the deceased were secondary schoolmates. Chidimma added that she served as the bridesmaid for the deceased in 2021 during her wedding in Imo state.
She admitted that her late friend was not happy with the way they did not keep in touch after she relocated with her husband to Abuja.
Chidimma said her late friend was recovering from an ailment in 2022 when they spoke only for her to find out two years later that the same sickness took her life. On how she found out, Chidimma wrote:
"...You crossed my mind last week. I couldn’t find your number to call or text you . I came on Facebook to check if you were active, I noticed your last post was on march 2nd 2023 . That was unlike you . You used to be very active on Facebook. But on a second thought, I said you might have decided to take a break from Facebook to just focus on your marriage or something…some people do it 🤷🏼♂️
"Chi, why did I get a call from my mum this yesterday’s telling me you had passed since last year?…That the sickness came back and took ur lyf . They said it’s called ACHị ERE…a spiritual sickness 🤔 . She had bombed in to your mum, she asked your mum about you and your husband and she started crying on the spot😢 ..."
Source: Facebook
Lady's chat with deceased friend angers people
The mourning lady attached a screenshot of her Facebook chat with the deceased and this drew the ire of many people.
This is as people noticed that the deceased sent Chidimma a message in 2018 which she never replied to. The message read:
"I know. I love you thank you for being in my life Have a safe holiday!! Send this heart to everyone you love (including me)."
Seven years later and with the knowledge of her demise, Chidimma replied:
"Chi, are you there?"
Experts' take on losing friends
Findings by Ackerman et al’s Stressful events and social supports: The significance of context suggested that the way a person feels after losing a friend could be similar to having a deceased family member.
Liu et al's Death of a Close Friend: Short and Long-term Impacts on Physical, Psychological and Social Well-being linked bad health to losing a friend and added that this kind of bereavement is also not widely reported.
Reactions on social media
Winifred Ijeoma said:
"Mtcheeew. But you last chatted her 2018. How are you guys friends? Now that she is no more, you started making post about her. I am very sure you never posted her when she was alive. Rip to the dead."
Stanley Joy said:
"This is not a real friendship, she was the last person that texted you since 2018 and you are just replying 2025, just because you heard she passed since last year. Biko there is no justification for this action."
Cynthia Chidimma Ihenacho said:
"You were never friends with her... She was forcing it. Rip."
Kenneth Adaobi D Chidimma said:
"Don't just add to my anger ds morning. Wen was una last conversation. She even sent u a heartfelt message since 2018. U just dey reply now. Osim chi are u there 🙄. Rip to d dead."
Blessing William said:
"Go and sleep, u didn't reply her message since, as she die u rush to go chat her up so we go feel pity for u. Don't add to my anger ok."
Blessing Kingsley said:
"But Chi dropped you a hearty 💕♥️💘❤️ message since 22nd June 2018 telling you how much she love you. You didn't reply, she complained on how you stopped reaching out to her you didn't make move to Keep in touch. Till 2025 you heard she's dead 7yrs later .then you rushed to drop a message to prove a point.. was your message necessary?? if today was Chi's birthday you won't have made this post. You ain't a good friend.
"You should do better on keeping a close and genuine friendship. Shalom!"
In a related story, a lady remembered her friend who died on his project defence day.
'Guilt is the first emotional struggle' - Expert weighs in
A mental health expert, Duke Ezikpe Mma, in an exclusive with Legit.ng, shed light on the emotional struggles people face when mourning the loss of a friend they had lost touch with.
According to him:
"When people lose someone, whether it's a friend dear to their heart, family member, loved one or someone that has impacted their life, the first thing they usually feel as emotional struggle is guilt."
He cited the case of Chidinma, who posted about her deceased friend on social media, saying,
"I think what pushed her to post the findings is guilt. And why is that? It's because she felt she could have done better."
The psychologist explained that sense of guilt often leads to a struggle with one's conscience and mind, adding that,
"Their mind is judging them. So many why's — and when those reasons are left unanswered, the first emotional struggle is a sense of guilt."
Lady laments as her creditor dies
Meanwhile, Legit.ng previously reported that a lady had lamented after a male friend whom she borrowed money from suddenly passed away.
The mourning lady, on TikTok, revealed the last words of her deceased male friend. She wept over his demise. She wrote:
"The last thing he said to me was “ so long it’s you kela i know you will pay “today makes it 3weeks since you left us sleep easy my friend ."
Editorial assistant Ololade Olatimehin provided exclusive commentary from a mental health expert for this report.
Proofread by Kola Muhammed, journalist and copyeditor at Legit.ng
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Victor Duru (Editor) Victor Duru is a Reuters-trained award-winning journalist with over 4 years of working experience in the media industry. He holds a B.Sc in Management Studies from Imo State University, where he was a Students' Union Government Director of Information. Victor is a human interest editor, strategic content creator, freelancer and a Google-certified digital marketer. His work has been featured on US news media Faith It. He can be reached via victor.duru@corp.legit.ng
Duke Ezikpe Mma (Mental Health Expert) Duke Ezikpe Mma is a Mental Health Specialist, Educationist, Coach, and Writer dedicated to mental wellness and advocacy. He holds degrees in Clinical Psychology from Nasarawa State University and Information Management from Ahmadu Bello University. As the founder of Where Do Broken Hearts Go and Grayscale Support Group, he provides safe spaces for individuals facing mental health challenges. A member of COSROPIN, he actively advocates for the well-being and rights of older persons in Nigeria.
