First Class Graduate Contacts Biological Dad Who Left Her for 17 Years, Weeps over His Response
- A mass communication graduate called her biological father who abandoned her for 17 years but got a saddening reply
- The heartbroken lady took to social media to share the reply she received from him, saying it broke something within her
- However, the lady also sent an open message and prayer to her dad about the future and what she believed would happen
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A first-class Nigerian mass communication graduate was left heartbroken after reaching out to her dad who left 17 years earlier.
The young lady said she summoned the courage to call her father on the phone but admitted that his response had left her crushed.
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First class graduate shares dad's response
When her dad answered, she said he cut her off and cut the call before she completed her rehearsed greeting.
The lady, who graduated at 19, also shared the WhatsApp message she sent him, which he had ignored.
However, she affirmed her belief in someday flying to America and becoming a woman of influence.
The caption of the TikTok video read:
"I guess I was never the problem🤧 I will still go to that America, that you think is the end of the world, and I’ll be a person of great influence, may they not hiss on you the sadistic way you hissed at me, Sir. (Writing this with heavy tears in my eyes😭💔) posting this is the only way to let my sadness out."
Some netizens questioned why she reached out to her dad and the graduate replied in the comments section:
"His family members said I should because that was the excuse he gave them; that I’ve never reached out to."
First-class graduate gets sympathy from netizens
Tee’scent said:
"Same as my dad, since when I was 7 that was the last time I heard from him 🥹🥹🥹🥹 I just pray he comes back one day."
Graceknowsbest said:
"Don’t call him again. He will look for you because the world will know and hear your name Ayomide❣️😍 it’s his loss."
Gifty❤️💋 said:
"Hey stranger wipe ur tears! There are better days ahead .. some of us had dad we even see on daily basis but is just asif is not there.. we are still doing good .. just hustle hard."
mercillina said:
"It’s well 🥺🥺🥺I understand how u feel,I pray sum day everything gets better n you will make it my love."
Amaka said:
"Don’t listen to anybody that tells you to forgive and accept him back in the nearest future oo💀….take care baby girl, you don’t need him anyways."
Phina said:
"I'll hold your hand while I say this 🥺 You'll make it big and he'll be the one begging for you to care."
Research, expert views on child abandonment
According to 'Is Rejection, Parental Abandonment or Neglect a Trigger for Higher Perceived Shame and Guilt in Adolescents?' by Marici, Marius, et al, a child who feels abandoned by their parents may struggle with unwanted feelings in the future.
The research noted:
"The child who experiences abandonment feels unwanted, rejected by his or her own parents, and deals with feelings of worthlessness that cause shame."
Her father's hostile reaction to her attempt to build a relationship shows some of the consequences of a separated family.
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Child psychologist advises graduate to seek help
Child psychologist Uzoamaka Nwachukwu has weighed in on the emotional impact of abandonment on children, following the story of a first-class graduate who was rejected by her biological father after 17 years.
According to Nwachukwu, professional help is crucial in such situations. The mental health practitioner told Legit.ng:
"There are lots of questions to be asked and background checks to be done."
Nwachukwu emphasised the importance of seeking professional help, saying:
"I believe it's a private matter and professional help should be sought with a therapist, for the girl's mental health and general wellbeing."
For others who may be struggling with similar experiences, Nwachukwu advised:
"On behalf of others going through such, they should seek professional help.”
In a related story, Legit.ng reported that a single mum had shared the transformation of her child who was abandoned and denied by her dad.
Lady abandoned by dad gets huge award
Meanwhile, Legit.ng previously reported that a lady who was abandoned by her father had received a major academic award.
Years after her dad kicked against her mum's decision to send her to school, the lady graduated at 20 with a degree in biomedicine.
In addition to earning the prestigious degree from her university, she also received the coveted Golden Heart Award for her effort.
Editorial assistant Ololade Olatimehin provided exclusive commentary from a child psychologist for this report.
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Victor Duru (Editor) Victor Duru is a Reuters-trained award-winning journalist with over 4 years of working experience in the media industry. He holds a B.Sc in Management Studies from Imo State University, where he was a Students' Union Government Director of Information. Victor is a human interest editor, strategic content creator, freelancer and a Google-certified digital marketer. His work has been featured on US news media Faith It. He can be reached via victor.duru@corp.legit.ng
Uzoamaka Nwachukwu (Mental Health and Trauma Recovery Specialist) Uzoamaka J. Nwachukwu is a highly trained mental health professional with expertise in grief counselling, emotional intelligence, and cognitive behavioural therapy. She holds a B.Sc. in Microbiology from Enugu State University of Science & Technology and multiple certifications in mental health, counselling, and psychology. With extensive training in trauma recovery, suicide prevention, and resilience-building, she is dedicated to supporting individuals through emotional and psychological challenges. She also holds a Diploma in Professional Counselling.
