Young Divorced Lady Shares Why She'd Never Advise Women to Leave Abusive Husbands, Shares Experience

• A young lady who got divorced said she would not advise other women to leave their abusive marriages
• She shared her experience when she decided to leave her husband and why her advice was hers alone
• Those who came across the post had mixed reactions and shared their thoughts on the lady's remarks

A young lady who left her marriage said she would not advise other women to leave their husbands because of maltreatment.

Na'ima Hudu said that even if she saw a woman with bruises and injuries, she would not tell them to leave their homes behind.

On her Facebook page, she explained that she would not give such advice because it was a decision for the woman to take.

Her Facebook post read:

“I'm a young divorced lady. However, no matter the complaints [or] maltreatment you get from your spouse, know that I will be the last person to ever advise you to leave your marriage. Wallahi, even if you're my sister [and] I come to your house and meet her with broken eyes and lips, I will never ask you to leave your husband as it is your sole decision to make and not mine.

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“I made my own decision by leaving, damned all consequences, ready to face the challenges and cared less about what people would say. No be mouth them dey tell blind man say rain dey fall.”

Reactions trail lady’s post about divorce

Muhammad Isah said:

"You're beautiful but you should go and seek your husband in the community not platforms."

Nerjaatoh Ismaeel said:

"I love encouraging words no matter what little they are, and I get alot when ever I read your posts thank u , may God bless."

Zaynerb Bayero Aliyu

"Apt. The advice I never gave and will never. I made my decision, they should make theirs."

Omar H Gidado

"If you faced trouble in your past marriage it's not mean all others are facing the same, no matter what a woman is a woman and man is a man and there must be a leader and followers that's it. Mrs feminist."

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Kabiru Ismail said:

"You already take your decision and what is the point for coming in to Facebook and telling us, did we ask? What is the aims? What do you wanna teach? Useless post! We have to fine something important to post please."

Babalola Taoreed said:

"Well, Sister Na'ima, as far as I am concerned, I won't hesitate to advise those in toxic relationships - both male & female, to run o!"

Divorcee's view on expensive weddings

In a recent Facebook post, the divorcee also gave her opinion on organising an elaborate wedding. She kicked against the idea.

The woman shared a personal experience of how she did a simple wedding despite backlash in her previous marriage.

She advised people against going into debt to satisfy people's expectations when getting married.

Risk of staying in abusive relationships

According to McLean Hospital, staying in an abusive marriage could have a very bad effect on children in the family and could even influence their choice of relationships in the future.

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It said:

"Children who grow up in the presence of domestic violence are more likely to experience it themselves once they reach adulthood. Boys from such environments are more likely to become perpetrators of violence, while girls are more likely to be victimized in adulthood."

Also, refusing to leave a bad relationship for a long time may reduce the victim's self-esteem and consequently the kids in the marriage.

In related stories, a man divorced his wife over his son’s medical bills, while a lawyer shared why he handled divorce cases despite being a pastor.

Lady remarries after losing first husband

Legit.ng also reported that a woman who remarried as a young widow opened up about her life experiences.

She shared how she lost her first husband when she was young and pregnant, motivating others online.

Many who came across her inspiring story hailed her for her strength and offered her words of encouragement.

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Joseph Omotayo, the HoD of the Human Interest Desk, contributed to this article, adding the divorcee's view on expensive weddings and an expert's take on abusive marriages.

Proofreading by James Ojo, copy editor at Legit.ng.

Source: Legit.ng